They say following your dreams won’t be easy, but it’ll be worth it. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the message, but I have a slightly different perspective. Now I’m not naive, and I realize that anything worth having in life requires work, but to me following your dreams is easy if you approach it the right way.
Here’s what I mean.
Everything in our lives that we feel a certain way about isn’t really about the thing “making” us feel that way, it’s more about our perspective about the thing. When someone says, “it won’t be easy”, my first though is, “well what’s the alternative”? What are people really saying when they say it’ll be difficult? I think for the most part, they’re saying you’re going to fail at times. They’re saying you’re going to have to sacrifice some things. They’re saying sometimes money will be short, etc. To which from my perspective, isn’t all that hard to deal with. To me, it’s just the way life works.
By choosing not following my dreams, I can and will fail at things. By choosing not following my dreams, I’m sacrificing a lot more than I would had I just followed my heart. I’d be sacrificing the absolute best version of myself. By choosing not following my dreams, money will more than likely be short at times because of my lack of passion for my job. Even if money isn’t short, how happy would I REALLY be with all the “stuff” I can buy to try to fill that void in my heart?
From my perspective, not following my heart and living a passionless life is what’s hard. Doing something I hate, or at best, am not interested in for money 40 hours every week is hard. Trying to distract myself from the reality that I’m not living up to my full potential by drinking and watching sports is hard. Taking a vacation from work 1-2 weeks out of an entire year, now that’s what I call hard.
Trying to build a lifestyle that you’d love to call your own and stumbling along the way, that’s not so hard. Sacrificing some entertainment and nights out with friends as you build your lifestyle, not so hard. Having a temporary tight budget as you make the moves necessary to prosper internally and externally, again, not so hard. It’s called life. It’s called the process.
At the end of the day, the circumstances you deem hard or easy comes down to how you choose to view the circumstances. Anything worth having is worth working hard for, and it comes with lessons along the way. Some lessons will be easy to learn, others may leave you with scrapes and bruises. Just remember that the alternative of taking the “normal” or “easy” road is a lot harder to deal with than you may realize at the moment. Especially as you age. Not following your heart may be easy to swallow when you’re young, but with age, regret gets more and more bitter, and harder to swallow.
Let these words serve as a call to action. You have what it takes to build the lifestyle you want, and the only one who can stop you, is you.
Don’t stop you.